“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.”
I love that quote. It’s so true! When you put gratitude at the forefront of your attention, everything else seems to slip away. Problems don’t seem quite as awful, people don’t seem quite as callous, and everything in general suddenly looks pretty freaking good.
With Thanksgiving arriving in a few days, I want to take this week to express and emphasize the gratitude I feel for the innumerable wonderful aspects of my life by shouting out a handful of them. So let’s get to it!
Our relationship isn’t all sunshine and roses. It’s actually really freaking HARD at times. Through the peaks and valleys, our love story remains the one I wouldn’t trade for the world.
I’ve loved him since I was 16 years old. The timing was never right for us, and I had convinced myself on more than one occasion that another man was in fact meant to be my husband. As fate would have it, we wound up together in the end; he was always meant to be my final move. We clearly both had some serious lessons to learn before finally arriving to one another! He is, and always will be, my soulmate. I’m lucky to call such a loyal and loving man my partner-in-crime.
When you have a family as utterly fantastic as mine, you can’t have a gratitude post without mentioning them. I won’t go too crazy since I’ve gone on and on about how much I adore each and every one of them on several other occasions, but I’m obligated to at least say a few words!
Those in my life that are TRULY my family (not necessarily those that are blood-related, but those that have been there for me through thick and thin) are second-to-none. They are the reason I’m as strong as I am. These people give me purpose, a sense of fulfillment found literally nowhere else, and the limitless support that only people who genuinely love you can provide. My immediate family, my own little family that I live with, my siblings, my nieces, my nephews, my best friends, my fur-babies – THEY are what helped make me the woman that I’ve become over the years. I could not be any more grateful.
Is my little two-bedroom apartment where I always imagined I would live? NOPE. But is it where I’ve created a beautiful home with my family? Sure is!
It’s not the house I’ve always dreamed of (but that’s coming!). It’s not a house at all, for that matter. What it is, though, is a place full of love. We have kind neighbors and are in a good location. It’s the place that Curtis, Olivia, and I moved in together as a family for the first time. It’s where we’ve encountered countless magical moments with fairies, leprechauns, and Christmas elves. This apartment is where we keep track of Olivia’s crazy growth spurts and where we teach her to bake cookies. It’s our HOME.
Yep, you read that right. I’m grateful for Olivia’s mother.
There was a time when that sentence would have NEVER escaped my lips. I’m sure she felt exactly the same way! However, the place we’re all in now fills me with gratitude, whether spectators get it or not.
This woman is willing to give me a chance, which is more than I can say about a lot of people. She set down the arsenal and took the risk of hearing me out and letting me in. She keeps me in the loop on her plans and the fun activities they all do together. We all go out on “co-parenting dates” every so often, because WE SHOULD BE ABLE TO DO THAT FOR OLIVIA. She is willing to coordinate schedules and outings and events WITH ME, even though she doesn’t have to. Not to mention, she’s a good time! We have a lot in common and a lot of fun together.
So yes, I’m grateful for this woman, a fellow black sheep, that helps me be the best version I can be of the hardest role to play in a family dynamic. I’m thankful for all of us in this gig together, making it work and growing together each and every day.
There are so many things I love about this blog.
- It keeps me connected to my bestie.
- It keeps me grounded.
- It makes me view things differently as I try to see difficult situations from all angles before flying off the hinges.
- It forces me to see the good I am constantly surrounded with, even when I’m caught up in “the hole.”
- It makes people see me for what I really am rather than what I may be perceived as.
- It helps others realize that we all go through massive amounts of crap, but we’re never alone.
The list goes on and on!
So for this blog, this outlet of ours that we use as a virtual soapbox and therapist, I am eternally grateful. And for YOU, our readers! None of this would be what it is if it weren’t for you, so THANK YOU!
Turn What You Have Into Enough
There isn’t a single person out there that doesn’t like to be told that he or she is loved and appreciated! If there are people in your life that sincerely add joy to your world, TELL THEM. Why not right now?? It is the season of gratitude, after all!
This post only touches on things in my life that I’m thankful for. If I were to list everything, it would go on forever.
Remember to actively remind yourself each day of a few things you’ve got in your life that you are grateful for. That act alone can change any negatives you are constantly seeing into minor inconveniences in the grand scheme of things. When you focus on the joy, more joy presents itself. Call it the law of attraction if you will! Train your brain to see the good and watch how much more miraculously appears.
See the good, be the good, spread the good, and thankfully Decide Bliss.