True Desires vs. Feminine Brainwashing

Ahhh… to be a woman in this world… Be feminine and be strong. Take care of everyone, including yourself. Remember to have babies so you feel truly fulfilled. Play the housewife and also the boss lady. Be both sweet and fierce at any given moment, depending on what is required. Accept chivalry with grace but still be independent. Take no crap but still be soft. Be beautiful but be willing to get dirty. Be fit but still be curvy.

There are so many expectations of women these days. Here’s the real question though: how many of these things are actually your true desires as a woman and how many are based off of feminine brainwashing?

The Fairytale Effect

From toddler age, girls are subconsciously marketed a very specific narrative. Let’s look at toys. Girls’ toys usually involve babies/dolls and houses/clothing/accessories for said babies/dolls. All of these embed the idea that to be truly female, you must constantly care for others. We are taught to nurture and take care of these babies, dolls, barbies, homes, etc. Now keep planting that narrative in a toddler’s mind until she is an adult.

From there, let’s pile on the Disney princess fairytale of a male figure riding in on his white horse to save the day and complete our story. Obviously no woman is complete or able to hold her own without the support and companionship of a strong male counterpart leading the way. Who on Earth will protect us from the dangers of the world or support our pretty little selves if not them?

Know Yourself

Basically it comes down to this: a woman’s mission in life is the basic fairytale stuff – fall in love, get married, buy a home, have babies. All of these things are lovely, don’t get us wrong! But if you decide NOT to do any of them, why should you feel unfulfilled? If you choose to instead focus on your career or traveling or whatever else strikes your fancy, why are you then plagued with those judgments and criticisms about how you’ll regret it later?

As women, we need to really get to know ourselves. Know what makes you tick, what sparks your passion, what makes YOU feel fulfilled. If that’s getting married and having babies, girl, get it! If it’s the vagabond life, get out there and see the world. Oh, you’re career-oriented and want to be CEO of a company? WORK IT.

The Mind is a Funny Thing

Our minds are tricky things for sure. Sometimes it’s incredibly hard to differentiate between what we actually want and what we’ve been brainwashed to believe we need. The more you know yourself, the easier this process becomes.

Take a second and picture your life twenty years from now. What do you see? What are your dreams? We personally like the idea of taking a peek at your bucket list. What sort of items do you have on there? The things you dream of doing before you pass away often speak loads about the kind of life you hope you have and what makes you feel fulfilled. After all, these are the things you hope to do before you die in order to make your life feel lived to the max! If that doesn’t give you an idea of what sort of things you’re truly into, we don’t know what else will.

Do You

You only get one life. Don’t waste it consumed in making sure it lives up to what everyone else thinks it should. Only you know what is enough for you, so trust that!

Know yourself, act accordingly, and unapologetically Decide Bliss.

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2 thoughts on “True Desires vs. Feminine Brainwashing

  1. Such a great post! I’ve had conversations like this with men mainly and my head ends up hurting in the end after trying to explain the points you made. Really good post.

    1. Thanks, Tymbre! It’s really hard to know what’s real sometimes and even harder to have conversations about it when you aren’t sure! I’m glad you get it too 🙂

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