Insecurities, insecurities, insecurities… Those pesky, gnawing, inner feelings of being threatened or feeling some varying form of inadequacy – we all have them. Everyone feels insufficient from time to time. Blissers, that is the norm for us all <big sigh of relief>. You aren’t weird or the oddball because you battle your way through daily insecurities.
Healthy vs Self-Sabotaging
Having self-doubt once in a while is all good. Having chronic insecurity, on the other hand, can sabotage your success and happiness in life. It robs you of your peace, and when you’re not peaceful you then tend to rob your loved ones of their peace.
It’s a defense mechanism – we’re safe if we convince ourselves that any underlying issue is not rooted in us, it’s in them. Really, we’re just scared to look within and sort through our own insecurities. This defense has us spending far too much time externalizing insecurities which results in negative, petty, judgemental, jealous, and obnoxious behavior. This behavior is all too often directed towards the ones we love most or acquaintances whose lives we covet.
Feeling tense yet?
Make Moves to Make Changes
When you think about it, what is it you’re really feeling insecure about?
Are you worried about your relationship not being able to withstand the tests of time? Does your fear revolve around lack of self-love or a negative body image? Are your inadequacies related to unfinished business, such as never getting that degree you always planned to?
Take this time to check yourself and figure out what’s going on. If you’re concerned about your relationship, why? Are your concerns truly valid or are they your inner demons creeping up to sabotage the greatness you’ve achieved? If it’s lack of self-love or negative body images, get off that tookus and get it moving! If you think you aren’t smart enough or are self-conscious about your lack of education, maybe take a night or online class. You could even easily rectify at least some of those feelings by setting down your phone once in a while and reading more. Read anything and everything you can get your hands on and watch the changes that come to you.
If you don’t like something, make moves to make changes! If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.
When you let your insecurities run the show, you’re giving in to the idea that you’re not good enough as well as putting that out to the world. Unless you want people to treat you the way you treat yourself, do some soul searching and act accordingly. No one should be able to treat you like you aren’t good enough, and that includes yourself!
Be better to yourself, know what your worth and that you aren’t perfect, make moves to make changes, and confidently Decide Bliss.