I don’t know about all of you, but my year absolutely flew by. How on Earth is it already the last day of the year??! All in all, 2017 was a good year for me. There were a few major bumps in the road, don’t get me wrong… But as a whole I’d call it a major success.
I want to take this post as a chance to share some of the awesome lessons that 2017 has taught me.
Think Before You React
Let’s say you find out that someone is talking trash about you in regards to something you think is actually quite praise-worthy about yourself (just pulling this out of thin air, not referring to anyone or anything in particular…<cough cough>). In this sort of scenario, my initial reaction is usually one of two things: call them out right then and there, causing a raucous defending myself OR passive-aggressively telling them to eff off in a not-so-discreet way.
Can you see why doing either of those things may not be the best way to handle it?
Instead of adding fuel to the fire, take a step back and a deep breath. Will any of that crap matter down the line? Is pettiness worth becoming petty in response?
Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he doesn’t become a monster.
I’m on a journey of self-improvement and stooping to the level of those that I find offensive will not help me grow. Reacting is fine, but maybe take a second and mull it over a bit before giving in to the vengeful beast that resides within you and only making things worse all-around
There’s No Pleasing Everyone
This is my truth for the year. I’ve learned this lesson probably more than anything else. No matter how good you think you are, how kind you are to others, how much effort you put in to keep the peace, THERE IS NO PLEASING EVERYONE.
This has led me to realize how much of my own self I sacrifice for the sake of those that don’t deserve it. Because of that fact, I have started a new trend! I am who I am. I’m a good person and I’m a great addition to any team. If you want me around, great! If you don’t, also great! I am simply going to live my life and continue to do what I think is right, but I will no longer be bending over backwards for everyone. I deserve to give myself a little bit of that treatment instead of wasting it on those that don’t deserve it.
Be Flexible – Life Will Surprise You!
All of you fellow planners, this one is for you!
I’m a girl that likes a plan. I have a tendency to have this idea in my head that I want things done a certain way, and pretty much any other way causes me anxiety because it doesn’t feel “right.” Time to fix that nonsense!
Having a gist of the direction you want to head in may be a better idea. Or maybe have a plan, but don’t fall apart if it doesn’t go like you thought it would. Instead, improve your improvisation skills and make the best of whatever situation presents itself. Because you know, you just might end up in a scenario where you planned to have a baby in a hospital but actually end up having her in the car on the side of the highway… Or any other random situation that can arise! Life can surprise you like that!
Let Go of Anger
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” -Buddha
Being mad is completely understandable. Staying mad gets you NOWHERE. Do your best to not dwell on bitterness and anger. You don’t have to pretend like it never happened, just don’t let it take over your life. It hurts no one but you.
Don’t Hold Past Mistakes Against Yourself – Make the Most of What You’ve Got
We’ve all made mistakes in the past. Everyone has made choices that we look back on and aren’t so sure the best route was taken. Can we change anything about what we did back then? NOPE. So make the best of what you’ve got! Don’t focus your attention on what you did wrong, what you don’t have, and what could have been. Living in the “what-ifs” only prevent you from enjoying what you’ve got. You’re here now, so make it awesome.
Bring on 2018!
This has been a big year of lessons and personal growth for me! I look back on where I was a year ago and I’m so happy with the progress that has been made. A lot of that comes from the clarity I get from doing this blog with Badiana.
I’m ready for a new year. I can’t wait to see what exciting things are coming for both Badiana and myself (we have a few FANTASTIC things on our radar – you’ll find out eventually!). It’s going to be another great year of lessons to be learned and growth to be made.
So bring on 2018! I’m on a mission to find my healthy, find my place, and excitedly Decide Bliss.
Happy New Year!